Tuesday, May 4, 2010

a slice of "ME" pie.... extra whip, please.

so this is continued from yesterday....

this is what i was presented with....
a ME pie chart....
i stared at this pie chart that i made, and wondered, "when did all of these pieces of pie become one? where was I when i slowly lost sight of.... ohhhh.... say, EVERYTHING?!
I needed to draw this chart back out....
i needed to stare at it for a while and to then break it down again.... put all of ME back into those things....
(click to enlarge the chart, it's hard to see otherwise)
CAREER- that is your career, your job, your means of money.... pretty self-explanatory.... what i have pretty much decided, is that having zero income has made me feel pretty reliant and DEPENDENT on jason. i have NEVER, not once depended on ANYONE else for this, and i've pretty much worked since I was about 12 (started working spinning signs for model homes). I had suuuuch a great desire for money. now when i think about it, i think this goes back to a certain time (middle school) i can remember my DAD (who lived in Tennessee) taking my MOM (who had FULL custody of us) to court for thinking that he was paying my mom too much money. i remember coming home after my mom had bought my younger sister and i some new bedroom furniture (a few days before).... i knew she had court that day, and i came walking in the house all bouncy and gitty, hoping it went well. however, i walked in to find my mother, hunched over, putting our bedroom furniture together in her pale yellow dress that she had worn to court. i asked, "how did it go mom?" she turned around and had black mascara under her eyes and running down her cheeks.... you must know one thing about my mom.... SHE NEVER CRIED.... at least not in front of us.... i knew it was bad. she got a 2nd job and began working 7 days a week. i offered to work and give her my money too. she wouldn't take it. but we did work together spinning signs.... i didn't ever really stop working after that....

FAMILY- family, doesn't mean you must love all of your family because you just must. it means.... family. this is the piece of your life that fits the people in that matter most to you. your husband, your wife, your parents, your grandparents, your siblings (or not).... whoever you love and appreciate in your family, you find a way of putting them into your life (or not).... measure that piece just right. it's a tough one....

FRIENDS- this is important too. my best friend, just so happens to be my husband. i do, however, speak with, have lunch with, or play guitar hero with other people, you know.... hee hee.... you've got to find the right balance of this piece as well....

PHYSICAL HEALTH- this consists of all of your doctor's appointments, your dental exams and cleanings, getting enough sleep, exercise, nutrition, etc. (EPIC FAILURE of mine)

HOBBY/LEISURE- well, um, i like writing.... which consumes a whole lot of my time, but i enjoy it, and this "hobby" also falls under my mental growth.... kind of.... at least i'd like to think so. i LOVE the beach. riding bikes. i like being with my family. i love watching the kiddos enjoy themselves. (T at the park, or swimming, getting ice cream, pedicures, etc). Lewie, he really isn't content with anything, (not yet at least) except when we're on a bike ride.... =)

MENTAL GROWTH- this includes anything and everything that helps you, teaches you something new.... therapy.... self improvement.... taking classes or courses.... reading.... this is muy importante, and i think a lot of people fail to really nurture this piece....

SPIRITUAL- this piece is for whatever you believe in.... for the part that brings you peace.... whether that be meditation, church, whatever it is for YOU!!!!

and last is COMMUNITY- what do you do for others.... do you volunteer? help out at school? help at the senior center? i don't know.... i think this one has a wide variety of options.... but make it count!!!!

it's beneficial to seriously sit down and look at what you make time for and what you don't.... it's REALLY beneficial to draw up a plan that will help you to incorporate the things that DO matter INTO your life more....



4 comments:

Ms. Anthropy said...

I'll just stick to eating pies. I like mine chocolate!

Bossy Betty said...

Such a great idea!

Pat Tillett said...

And in your spare time, maybe you can paint the Golden Gate bridge.

I know what you mean. It's very easy to lose yourself in a situation like yours. It's gonna get better, I promise! You start a bit at a time. Before you know it, maybe you can at least have a bit of each piece of pie.

Remember Grasshopper, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step...

ASBLACKASOBAMA said...

Wow.... What an interesting idea....

Family - That story about your mother is heart breaking.... My wife stays at home with the kids, and I've always promised her that if, god forbid, she ever gets tired of me, she'll never have to worry about the kids....

When you make your pie, do you want each piece to be equal? Or do you take into account how big each slice should be.... For example, my family is everything to me.... So would they be my biggest slice? Or are the slices there just as points to think about....

BTW.... I have received your emails and I have responses.... I just haven't written them down.... I'm not ignoring the emails.... lol