Monday, November 16, 2009

once upon a time....

once upon a time there was this King.... his name was Jason.... and he was so handsome.... and had such a beautiful smile.... and dimples that would melt your heart.... his eyes were such a beautiful brown.... when he stood in the sun, they looked like brand new pennies!  his eyelashes curled, and he could stare into your eyes with such a romantic intensity that would send chills over your body.... it was magical! he was so strong and so poised... nothing ever bothered him. his feelings never got hurt.... he never cried. he always took care of business. he was such a MANLY man!

he brightened everyday.... he always smiled. he was so happy all the time.... why, King Jason was PERFECT!!!!!

.... this is how our fairytale started.... i fell in love with my prince! he was my knight in shining armor. he was my perfect man. he was my perfect everything.... 

that's such a high standard to hold ANYONE up to.... to make them feel like they are perfect and can NEVER do any wrong?!   what happens when they disappoint you?  oh, the whole world would come crashing down then.... what happens if King Jason had a bad day?  or he didn't smile. or i didn't see his dimples, or he didn't stare at me with that romantic intensity that he once did? 

oh the world would come crashing down....

here i go with my "i think," again..... but here i go anyway.....

i think that so often, we fall in love with the fairytale romance of our new love.... we hold onto that fairytale romance.... that new love and we want it to last forever.... we have that expectation that it will forever be this "magical" and "wonderful".... and anything less is just not acceptable.... bad days never happen in fairytales, and so they can't happen in real life....

hey, guess what everyone?  this IS real life!!!! 

real life is not:
a fairytale.
it is not perfect.

what happens when you realize that you married a HUMAN!!!!!
*gasp*
you didn't marry a prince, or a king, or a queen, or a princess!!!!
what happens when you ACCEPT that you've married a human?

well i'll tell you what happens....
all your super high expectations go out the window....
you don't always expect them to be perfect. 
you don't expect the smiles every single day.
you don't expect that things will be perfect.
you don't expect that they will never disappoint you.....

you ACCEPT that there will be bad days....
there will be trying times....
there will quiet times.... 
boring times....
noisy days.....
sad days....
lonely days....
there will be those times.....

but just because those times exist, doesn't mean that you don't love one another....
i vowed my life to my handsome King.... but he's only a King, because of his name. 
He's a king.
he's my king.

Everyone believes they know what perfect is.... perfect is different to everyone....
Jason just so happens to be the "perfect" one for me....

you learn to set boundaries with each other.... 
"bottom lines" as someone once taught me....
she said "you set the bottom lines of what you will NOT accept.... and you guys don't cross those bottom lines...."

humpf!
who would've known....
boundaries.... "bottom lines"....
what a wonderful thing to have.

once upon a time....
i vowed my life....
my days.... ALL of them.... 
to my wonderful husband....
my wonderfully happy, grumpy, funny, anxious, handsome, lazy, HUMAN husband....
and it was the wisest decision i've ever made.... 
and we lived.... 
and we loved each other.
every.
single.
day....
the best that we knew how.....

the end. 

(of just the beginning.... of learning how to love one another better for all of the rest of my days).

1 comment:

Christina said...

I love it! I do know that no one is perfect! How crazy we are to think that our loved ones won't ever let us down. In reality, it happens! I love your writing... wish you could write on my behalf and I'll described what I go through... lol